Eden Cafe: The Care and Keeping of Bisexuality in a Straight Marriage

This article, on Eden Cafe, really spoke to me, hence why I felt the need to point you guys to it. 

The Care and Keeping of Bisexuality in a Straight Marriage

"I was really happy with my choice to marry a man. But there was always that obnoxious nagging that I liked girls. No really, I liked girls. I wasn’t planning to marry one, I didn’t want to leave my husband, but sometimes…"

Go read the whole article at Eden Cafe now! Really, go...

Okay, you back? I really enjoyed the article and empathised greatly with the position. It can, sometimes, feel like a no win situation to be in and it helped to see someone else who found themselves in a similar quandry. I commented on the post:

"As a monogamous-identified, bisexual female in a long term relationship, this article really spoke to me. I've been having real difficulties lately with my longing for women and it's prompted me to feel 'shakey' in my long-championed belief that bi folk can be in a single, steady, mono relationship with either gender without the 'bi thing' affecting it…
As of now, I don't see a resolution for it. A bit of flirting with friends, a lot of fantasising about girls, yes… but I don't see any more than that, as fundamentally we're mono. For all the good and bad that brings."


Sure, the Mr and I may not be married (yet?) but cohabiting and in a long term relationship isn't too far removed, and if you follow me here or on twitter you'll know my girl-lusting is only getting worse... *sigh*.

NK x

Eden Cafe: Losing It

I had forgotten about this going live! It's my most recent post over at Eden Cafe, on virginity and sex ed.


...it is irresponsible as a nation (and beyond) to refuse to accept that the information we provide our young people with will affect the choices they make and are capable of making. It may or may not reduce unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections – of course the hope is that it will – but if nothing else surely we should all be striving to ensure that the young people of today are equipped with knowledge that allows them to make informed choices?


Read the whole article at Eden Cafe


NK x

Win a Cobra Libre with EdenCafe!

You may (I hope) have already visited Eden Cafe. It's a fantastic hub for all kinds of sex, sexuality, relationship and kink related articles, and I occasionally write there too!

They're currently running a contest to win a Fun Factory Cobra Libre! Fun Factory have been crafting awesome toys for years, but before this, it was us ladies who got to have all the fun (or at least most of it!) - now they've come up with what I'd honestly say seems to be a totally unique male masturbator!

See, most toys for the boys are things that still require a fair bit of effort - things like sleeves and strokers, which primarily exist to change texture rather than do the job for you while you get to relax and enjoy... The Cobra Libre is completely different.

It accomodates the head and a small part of the shaft of the penis, and uses dual motors to vibrate any guy to heaven. Another thing that is brilliant about this gadget is the way it is totally and utterly masculine - no girly pink here!

Best of all, it's totally rechargable via the unique Fun Factory Click and Charge system - where the charger connects via a magnetic point on the back of the toy.

So with all that said, what are you waiting for? Win one here or buy one here!

NK x

The Best of Both Worlds or Lost in Limbo?

A new article, on society's acceptance, or lack thereof, for non-binary sexuality forms, at edencafe! Excerpt:

Whether intentional or unthinking, bisexual denial is a frustrating thing for bisexual, pansexual or ‘fluid’ people to have to deal with. It became unacceptable, in the majority of places, to pass comment on a gay or lesbian person for their sexuality, yet it seems that bisexuality lags behind. Even in the LGBT scene, there are so many who see bisexuality in a different light to the rest of the queer community.

Read the whole article here

NK x