tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8768439208887341359.post2427117318329207835..comments2023-05-14T09:20:55.001+01:00Comments on Nymphetamine Kiss: Why Define by Difference?NymphetamineKisshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10203270595892185184noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8768439208887341359.post-19308868938077236652011-02-08T08:48:29.000+00:002011-02-08T08:48:29.000+00:00Because non-monogamy is less acceptable in society...Because non-monogamy is less acceptable in society (not rightly of course, but for now it's not the 'norm') it seems a little off for non-monogamous people to pass negative comments on others' relationship configurations, since they must know how that feels. And of course, it is just as off for monogamous people to judge those who are non-monogamous - especially since they often know less about it than they think. Non-monogamy is so *not* about cheating, and it is possible to cheat in non-monogamous situations through being dishonest with your primary partner(s). <br><br>I think everyone just needs to back off a bit. There is no need to judge anyone else and how they conduct their relationship. As you say, everyone is just trying to express their love for each other in whatever way they think best. And that is definitely the thing to focus on. <br><br>Great post <br><br>xxxJaniehttp://100waystobeperverse.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8768439208887341359.post-58762567235879132272011-02-15T03:17:04.000+00:002011-02-15T03:17:04.000+00:00Love this post, its interesting, and I gotta say m...Love this post, its interesting, and I gotta say mostly spot on!<br><br>However, compersion is more usually defined as deriving pleasure and happiness on seeing/experiencing a partner's joy/love with another. I'm not sure mono people can truly appreciate this. but then we are creating words for different types of love everyday, like 'bromance'. You could experience a degree of compersion from seeing your partner with their best friend as they share in-jokes and interests you do not. Not feel jealous, misplaced, inadequate etc (which I've felt in my poly relationships as well as compersion!). Knowing your partner(s) love you, just as you are, wholly, completely is wonderful. Seeing them love another as such, seeing them share the joy and love they have with others, its wonderful. When I feel compersion I feel on fire, I feel glad, I feel...content.<br><br>Anyway, loved the post, hun. And I hope I am your best friend, you!!<br>Loves, Lillith xxxLilly Ghttp://www.lillithsgoodes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8768439208887341359.post-26115053725682811762011-02-16T01:05:46.000+00:002011-02-16T01:05:46.000+00:00Damn right you are :) I can see why it would be qu...Damn right you are :) <br><br>I can see why it would be questionable as to whether or not mono types can truly appreciate compersion (to me, frubbly sounds like a yogurt in a tube) but what can I say, it feels like it makes sense to me. <br><br>I guess what provoked this post was getting tired of feeling like there's this giant gulf between perceptions of mono relationship types and poly types... which I don't see - maybe I'm being a romance-hippy here, but I really do think our similarities are more than our differences <3<br><br>And I love to see my friends happy, whether thats with one SO, or multiples thereof!<br><br>NK xNymphetamineKissnoreply@blogger.com